The students are asked to write down sexual experiences in chronological order, using the black pen for those that were in their control (such as a first kiss) and the red pen for those that were not (such as getting their first period).
The women are a flurry of activity, practically tripping over each other to scribble—"played doctor," "found a pubic hair," "menstruation," "kissed a boy," "kissed a girl," "touched by a cousin," "fell in love," "lost my virginity," "had an abortion," "had a baby," "breasts sagging," "menopause," "discovered sex without love." The men look on and appear intimidated.
How do I manage being a parent and a sexual person?
Can I feel sexually satisfied if I don't have a life partner?
They can also recommend treatments for conditions that can affect your sex life, such as incontinence.
Effective treatments for vaginal dryness include over-the-counter moisturizers and lubricants, and prescription estrogen creams, tablets, and rings that you insert vaginally.
After wrapping up the discussion about self-touch, during which Tuttle encourages students to "think about sensuality broadly and not shut off the pleasure of getting to know the whole body," she and her coteacher, Michael West, an economic development project manager in the Texas A&M University system, explain the next exercise: a sexuality timeline.
(OWL facilitators are trained over three days, and the program is typically team taught, usually by a woman and a man.) Thirty feet of newsprint is rolled out across two long tables. The men are assigned one sheet; the women, the other.
The best way to protect yourself and your partner is for the two of you to get tested for HIV and other STIs before you start having sex.
" There's one simple reason those questions aren't tackled, Tino says. Most of what affects our sexuality happens in adulthood—long-term relationships, breakups, parenthood, illness, sheer exhaustion from managing life." Although the courses the churches prepared were aimed at adults in their 20s to early 30s, to the organizers' surprise, middle-aged parishioners have stampeded the discussion-based program.
Students in tonight's class, for instance, are in their late 40s to mid-60s.
Sex can still be satisfying but will be different from younger years, and might need to be adapted for current age, disability, illness, or surgery-induced body changes.
Older adults are more vulnerable to sexually transmitted infections (STIs) than younger adults. Know your partner’s sexual background before having oral, vaginal, or anal sex. Talk about your sexual histories, any past STIs, results of STI testing, and whether either of you has ever injected illegal drugs. Elizabeth, an information technology manager at a local government agency, is an athletic woman, efficient in her movements. So begins the fifth session of Our Whole Lives (OWL): Sexuality Education for Adults, at the First Unitarian Church of Austin. "It was just nice to be touched at all," says Judith.Use one condom and lubricant every time you have vaginal, oral, or anal sex, including during foreplay, until you know your partner’s sexual history, STI status, and are in a sexually exclusive relationship.