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"You might like to consider seeing a marriage counselor, psychologist, or even a sexologist for help," Dr. If there is an underlying problem that's causing your lack of intimacy, you won't be able to fix your sex life without first working on that problem.Luckily, there are several sex therapists that could be covered by insurance who specialize in issues like these, specifically. No two couples are the same, so the reasons why you and your partner are having sex less often might not be the same as for other people.
If you're really lucky, the sex can last that way well into a long-term committed relationship, and you'll live happily sexually ever after.A lot of times, deep down, we do have some inkling of the roots of any problem. Are you eating healthily, exercising moderately, and getting sufficient rest? Check if your attitudes and beliefs about sex and sexuality are supporting or hurting your sex life. Which areas — sex quality, duration of foreplay, or simply frequency — would you like to work on? You may both need to learn new communication skills and techniques.Are you always comparing yourself with the Joneses?Your sexual desire is an exquisitely unique expression of individuality, and comparisons serve no one. You can also ask yourself about the speed at which your sex life dwindled: Did it happen really quickly, or was it over time?
If it happened seemingly overnight, there might be a bigger problem.
It can make the person who wants to have more sex feel like they're being demanding, and it can make the person who wants less sex feel like they're constantly being chased. "If you are not happy with the state of things, do not sweep it under the carpet and wait until there is so much resentment and anger that it is too late to salvage the relationship," says Dr. You also may want to get checked out physically if you think your libido is so low that something deeper may be wrong.