Having said that, it’s also important to acknowledge that it is almost to watch their little ones become even more upset.
So the most important thing for you to do before you read any further is to acknowledge to yourself that discipline is not fun and rarely easy.
), but if you attempt an ongoing discussion with your four-year-old, you’ll find you won’t have a very alert audience for too long.
My rule of thumb for attempting to change a young child’s behavior is to be “swift and safe.” By swift, I mean move in quickly to correct the behavior and place your child in an environment where he or she will be safe since young children have a tendency to lash out physically when angry or disciplined.
If you have a tantrum, you will go right to bed.” When you tell your child matter-of-factly that you are in fact in charge and then propose a consistent routine each day, whether we’re talking about bedtime rituals or overall discipline, your child begins to know what to expect and feels secure within the rules of the house. Here’s a good example: Trey is a spirited, strong-willed 2 ½ year old child who likes to have his way.
Every time Karen tells her 5-year-old son Jayden it’s time to leave a friend’s house, he explodes, throwing his toys, screaming and kicking her.
“It’s gotten to the point that I don’t want to take him anywhere anymore,” she says. Her 3-year-old toddler has started biting other kids when she’s frustrated.
Before bedtime begins, I recommended they started saying to themselves, “I’m the parent here and I am in charge,” and then begin their bedtime ritual, which includes a declaration to Charlie: “From now on starting at we will begin our bedtime routine.
This will include your bath, your teeth being brushed and one story.At this point you can tell her “When you are ready to play nicely, you can return.” Most, if not all, of your young child’s discipline at this age will center around her acting out (hitting, biting, screaming) for not getting her way, or perhaps throwing a tantrum.A child between the ages of two and six does not have the frustration tolerance, the language skills or reasoning abilities that an older child or an adult has.However, without it your child will be at an enormous disadvantage throughout their school years and in their social life.