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It was an incredibly lonely time because his sex addiction had to stay hidden to protect our children.
I withdrew and couldn’t even relate to people I loved dearly.
The children don’t know about his sex addiction and I don’t want them to.
Finding a good therapist and people who have been through the same experience is critical.
My sister saved me in those first few months and she was the one who found the Rutland Centre.
There was a very small circle I could talk to and you have to have absolute trust in the people you tell because it is a matter of life or death in this addiction.
I remember saying to my husband, “the decision I make will be 99 per cent for our children, 0.9 per cent for me and you will be the 0.1 per cent that is left over”.
“Sex addiction brings a very particular set of challenges and trauma and we really felt the need to address it,” says Weldon.
“The discovery of the addiction is usually a bombshell.
Did I stay during his treatment and see what would happen on the other side, or did I leave him? I put the man I know him to be on one side and the addiction and terrible choices on the other and it always shifted one way.
It was so hard to accept that this was an illness, but the way I looked at it, if my husband had been suffering from cancer, I would not have turned my back on him.
Sex addiction can be seen as a macho addiction, according to Dr Fiona Weldon of the Rutland Centre.